Another one bites the dust

[ringsandcoffee]

Aaaaaaaaaannnd another couple I know just got engaged. Frick. What is wrong with me?

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There's nothing wrong with you.

[ewanspotter.livejournal.com]

Reading this post, first I was like:




Then I was like:

Re: There's nothing wrong with you.

[bowiechaser.livejournal.com]

Ahahahaha, that is a fabulous reply!

Re: There's nothing wrong with you.

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

Words cannot express how awesome this post and you are.

(http://s9.photobucket.com/albums/a77/ringsandcoffee/?action=view&current=tacklehugcat.jpg)

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

Nothing is wrong with you. I remember thinking I would NEVER find the right man to marry me. Shoot! dating was not good at all and ...let me correct myself...dating was "nonexsitant". I was too shy. I finally met the right guy through a doctor friend of ours...I know, dangerous, but it worked and we are happy for the most part...I'm not sure that last part applies to you about the doc. Usually blind dates do not work.

It took so long to find him, I considered becoming a Nun & I'm not Catholic! lol!...ok some bad humor there.

You will find him, just hang in there.

{{{Hugs}}} :)

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

thanks :) Also, ugh, no blind dates...

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

You got that right!!! I had NEVER had a blind date that wasn't HORRIBLE!...well except my husband to be and I think that was different and a miracle.

[jessibobessi.livejournal.com]

I feel your pain!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm in a relationship and still can't get engaged.

I think the secret is to just date EVERYONE lol. In all honesty it probably does make sense. In college, omg did I "date" (go on dates) with so many different types of guys and the ones I ended up falling for or getting in relationships with - were not always necessarily the "ideal" I thought I wanted but I ended up falling for them anyway and loving their ideal.

Also, don't wait for them. I asked out tons of guys in my past. Half the time, even if they are interested in you (which you won't always tell because men enjoy sending mixed signals)...they're a chicken shit and won't ask you out so take their chicken shit by the balls and ask them!

[bowiechaser.livejournal.com]

Good advice & all, but if you want a man that's going to persue YOU and make you feel desired, you should not have to chase them down or be the aggressor in getting the dating going, IMO. I don't want to have to chase down a guy - that's THEIR job!
Easy pickin's and no chase for a guy too often leads to disappointment. :/

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

Hmm, that requires to me to get over my own chicken-ness o_O

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

This I understand. Me was a chicken too......... :D

[laurasia-mystik.livejournal.com]

Don't see it as a failure on YOUR part! Way more often than not, it's the men that need to get their crap together to be even remotely marriage material.

Yeah!

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

I totally LOLed at the icon this morning.

Come on, men! get your crap together already! :D

Re: Yeah!

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

They really do need to be grown up I think and seriously want someone who is "more" than just a date. Hopefully they have already decided that they want someone special they can love and be with always. Of course I could be wrong, I'm a romantic. I just know that it was that way with Michael and me. We were both so lonely when we met. Also, he was my best friend.

[bowiechaser.livejournal.com]

amen to THAT! (and to the icon. :D)

[bowiechaser.livejournal.com]

ABSOLUTELY NOTHING is wrong with you. Honey, please do not compare yourself to others in that area. It is unfair and unrealistic. I, for one, am GLAD you aren't just settling for any ol' guy so that you can say you're engaged or so that you can get married.

And, since you're a Christian, I am assuming that you have an absolute committment to NOT dating guys who don't have that personal relationship with Christ (and I applaud that, since God specifically states DO NOT BE UNEQUALLY YOKED)... have you asked around at church at all? I don't even know if you're part of a small group? That can help. Being active in your church is very helpful in meeting single guys who very likely share your faith. :D

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

I'm not comparing, just frustrated. The couple is one I know from church, and I've been part of church groups for years. Groups my age and full of single guys. And...nothing. Well, nothing besides the 2 mentally unstable guys who asked me out.

[bowiechaser.livejournal.com]

LOL @ the description of those two guys. All I ever seem to attract is non-Christian atheist types, and I'm like... uuummmm NO. NO DATING YOU. I did enjoy a friendship with this guy Eli, he was a GREAT dude (I'm sure he still is)... but we've drifted apart since he started dating some gal and they've since (to the best of my knowledge) had a son together. Eeesh!

I'm sorry you're not meeting the right guy just yet. :( So frustrating to wait, sometimes!

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

How mentally unstable?...you haven't met my husband.........

***runs for my life*** :)

Just kidding! :D

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

Well, one I could tell had anger issues from the stories he told the night I met him. That scared me away even *before* he said he's bipolar. I know many people live with bipolar disorder, but this guy didn't have a good handle on his. He asked me out on a date a few weeks after we met (at a weekly Bible study), and I turned him down. He told me later that he considered killing himself because of that o_O but that some random thing that happened at the study that night made him laugh and change his mind. Later he said I had been leading him on...So, apparently having a conversation with someone who won't leave you alone = leading them on.

The other guy I think was fried from past drug abuse, and wasn't all there in the head.

[debmommy22.livejournal.com]

This guy is either totally nuts of just plain stupid! Tells you he's Bipolar?...don't think so...You have no way of knowing if he was bipolar and what the heck does that have to do with going out with you?! You were leading him on?! LMAO! He's going to kill himself over you! He just said that to try to guilt you into dating him, I think? What a moron!

He probably can't get a date with anyone, espcially nice, classy girls, like you.

This guy has problems alright; he needs to grow-up. Well and in my humble opinion is a LOSER! ...and he hasn't got a clue if he thinks that is the way to get a girlfriend! I would stear clear of him too.

Sorry, I understand about dates like that. Some of these guys are very scary. The anger issue alone would have made me afraid of him. It seemed like all the losers wanted to date me. So glad I met Michael. Even with our up's and down's...so bad down's too, I know he loves me and Alex.

[mysterygal11.livejournal.com]

Nothing is wrong with you! You are fantabulous. :-) And you have a lot to look forward to in the relationship department.

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

Thank you. I love that you said fantabulous.

[mashena.livejournal.com]

feel the pain.

the few guys that I have had interested in me... just weren't right...and I wasn't being that picky.

it's annoying...but I figure singleness hasn't killed me yet.

[ringsandcoffee.livejournal.com]

Dude, I don't even have the opportunity to be picky. Grr.

Singleness hasn't killed me yet, either, but it makes me want to punch things on occasion :)